How Family Mediation Works

Initial intake session

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To begin the process, the mediator will meet you for an initial 45-minute intake/MIAMS appointment, at which they will explain the different processes and your options so that you are able to make an informed decision about the process you would prefer to use. The mediator will also answer any questions you have about the mediation process and/or the Agreement to Mediate that will have already been sent to you.

Each party will have their own, separate, intake session in which they will be able to ask any questions they have.

At your intake appointment, the mediator will also be able to give you an indication of how many sessions you’ll need, as this will depend on how complicated the issue is.

If you then decide that mediation is not for you, the mediator will complete the relevant part of the form, which you or your solicitor will need to submit to the court in order to begin proceedings.

Regular mediation sessions

If you are both happy to go ahead you will be able to book regular meetings with the mediator until proposals are reached. These appointments last up to 1 hour 30 minutes, and there are usually between three and five meetings, depending on your particular circumstances. At the end of each session you will decide if you wish to continue with the mediation process. Meetings are usually fixed individually and there is no requirement to undertake a certain number.

Proposals

The mediator will then draw up a record of the agreed proposals, known as a memorandum of understanding. If the mediation involves finance and property the mediator will also draw up a full summary of your financial position. If required, these documents can be taken to your solicitor for use.